The beauty of difference between us

difference

We all know that everyone is different and unique. Every one of us has different qualifications, different stories.

How, in a world full of contradictions, different opinions and views, can we reach agreements? In our hearts, we are all very much alike. We want to love, be loved, be happy and healthy. We often forget about this and see only what divides us and the differences between us.

What we can do about this relies only on us. It’s based on valuing differences all mental, physical and psychological. Having this attitude is the foundation of good cooperation and understanding others.

How many times do we meet people who only believe that they are right, that don’t even think there is a probability that someone with a different opinion could also be right.

A person open to differences realizes that everyone can have a different opinion. He/she appreciates and understands these differences.

Often, differences arise from a different interpretation of facts. Understanding that even if we have different opinions we can still both be right, is crucial in this situation- help me see it from your perspective, how do you see it?

Thanks to this we can avoid unnecessary conflict.  By appreciating the differences, we create a great opportunity for cooperation- synergy. This is true both at work and at home.

Working in groups or in pairs, problem solving and having different opinions on a given subject makes us more creative, more engaged and committed to what we create.

We have to remember that we are all “connected”. Our attitude, mood and energy affect everyone in our environment. We can always find something good in others that we can use to expand our view of the world. Changing our attitude will encourage others to be more open to us and to appreciate the differences between us.

Whenever you’re talking to someone with a different opinion you can say- ok that’s your opinion, you see it differently. Through this you are telling him that you value his opinion that he might be right.

Even if you are convinced that only your solution is correct, you can find a third solution, where you’ll both be happy.

Now consider this: do you have anyone that you are close to, that irritate you? If so, think about whether you’re focused on the appreciation of the differences between you or if you could come to an agreement with these people?

Next time you are discussing something, try to understand what might be behind the attitude of that person.

In conclusion, I would like to mention that longest experiment in history, which lasted 75 years. It was initiated by Harvard university and psychiatrist Robert Waldinger.  It was to explain what makes humans happy and healthy. Two groups were studied. One consisted of very educated and the other of people from the lowest social group. The results were very clear.  What makes us happy and healthy is not fame and money but social connections to family, friends, community and good relationships with our loved ones.

So let us value our relationships because true happiness comes from having someone to share it with.

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